2020: a year of learning
They say the toughest experiences are also the richest sources of learning. As 2020 closes, I look back indeed on the richest and most intense year of learning I can remember, much of it unintentional and incidental, some intentional and structured through CPD that I have sought out.
The unstructured learning has been as powerful as the structured learning, in a year which has brought us all a global pandemic for which the medical world was unprepared, climate disasters, Black Lives Matter, the UK’s definitive withdrawal from the EU, and a new US president. For me, the year has brought the co-founding of Coaching through COVID , with its distinctive philosophy of both team and coaching.
The unimaginable became reality
If ever there was a year in which our assumptions about what was and wasn’t possible, this was it. This time last year we could never have dreamed of the imminent, constant and long-standing threat to our health, and how fragile that health would seem. It now feels to me that we were complacent about what individuals and individual nations can control, about the power of nature, about the real power of systemic connection and interconnection, about what globalisation truly means, and about how economies can function (although not necessarily flourish) with deserted offices and town centres, and with enforced flexibility and adaptability.
Science fiction features stories of global pandemics, which until a year ago were exactly that: fiction. Who could have imagined that the entire world would be assailed by the same pandemic at the same time? At the cusp of this New Year three new vaccines to protect us from COVID have come within reach. Who could have imagined that the year would bring not only a lethal virus but also three vaccines? As horrific and startling as the virus has been, the responses to it, and the vaccines in particular, have made the seemingly impossible possible. What other massive advances in health will we see before the end of 2021?
Existential issues, such as societally-embedded recognition of, and respect for, people of colour, who for so long have been struggling to gain full recognition, respect and equal treatment, have been unexpectedly (and hopefully) propelled along that path by Black Lives Matter. While the job of countering inherent discrimination is far from finished, people of colour may now have a new profile – and others may have too: people who are disabled mentally or physically, people who suffer gender discrimination, religious minorities such as Muslims and Jews, ethnic minorities such as Uighurs.
A US President who has used dishonesty, power, relationships, self-interest and the US political system in ways which mean that he now faces personal criminal liability, has created outcomes that most people could have never anticipated or imagined could be possible. Much of this (other than facing criminal liability) can also be used to describe the UK Prime Minister.
Learning from the apparently impossible
What have I learnt? After this year, when the hidden has erupted into the obvious in the most striking of ways, and when some of what we previously took for granted has been completely overturned, it is beyond any doubt that all of us need to beware of claiming that this or that is impossible.
My second big learning is that whereas hitherto (or at least until the Brexit vote) I have been cautious about expressing publicly what may have been construed as political, it is clear to me that such issues are much broader than the political: they are social, human and systemic, and relate to fundamental values such as humanity, integrity, appropriate responsibility and change. To that extent I now believe they do come within my sphere of responsibility as a coach.
And I have learnt that there is always opportunity, hope and possibility.
A team ethos impacts a corner of the NHS
For me personally, this year has been hugely impacted by the privilege of co-founding Coaching through COVID. This programme of pro bono coaching mobilises high-quality coaching for those in the UK NHS and the care sector who have been impacted directly by COVID: to date 260 coaches have provided coaching to well over 400 individuals, whose feedback has demonstrated that, in the face of the pressures, stress, and anxiety that COVID has presented them with, Coaching through COVID has enabled them to resource themselves in ways they had never known how to, and in many cases to change or transform. These are extraordinary results. This has been enabled by an approach to coaching which prioritises presence – a ‘being with’ in order to resource – over coaching objectives.
Growing from the seed of an idea by Mark McMordie, and inspired by his philosophy – shared by all four co-founders – of compassion, presence, psychological safety, collective intelligence, agility and being of service – our team of 12 has not only brought passion and dedication to the programme, but means for me the most nourishing, safe, innovative and energising team that I have ever been part of.
While it has been very demanding, particularly as we set up from a standing start, it has also been immensely rewarding to both work with these colleagues and to know we are making a difference that matters. It has shown me clearly more about what I realise my purpose is, and which has been reflected in two or three previous situations in my career (namely, to enable those people to express their true voices who are giving hugely of themselves in contexts where that giving isn’t reciprocated in the way they need if they are to maintain their health and wellbeing).
I have realised too that what may look to the outside world like my generosity, benevolence or courage is in fact simply passion for what feels existentially important. This realisation has changed what I bring to my clients outside Coaching through COVID.
Health and wellbeing
This year has forced knowledge workers back to their spare bedrooms and their kitchen tables, in order to deliver on even more demanding work agendas as they have detached physically from their colleagues. It has shown in stark relief the extent to which health and wellbeing fall squarely into the manager’s and the leader’s responsibilities. During the lockdowns, some of those other than knowledge workers who need to be physically on site in some way in order to deliver on their job agendas have faced additional pressures in terms of the instability and uncertainty of their livelihoods and their futures, while others – such as health and care workers, teachers and bus drivers – have faced the reality that by doing their jobs they have exposed themselves to potentially lethal health threats.
There has been a general realisation (although, sadly, not a realisation yet integrated in all corners of the working world) that in order to maintain their mental and physical health, individuals need explicit, careful and focused support from those who lead them if they are to work effectively from home, and if they are to deliver what they are required to. This reality is proving even more of a challenge than previously for leaders and managers who have believed that delivery of the task is their only responsibility: it has become starkly clear that they need to learn much more about how to engage, enable, motivate and empathise with their people as human beings as a priority over the task. Treating team members as humans needs to be explicit and focused. Only by prioritising in this way can the task be effectively delivered. It’s learning that some are reluctant to engage in.
And my learning has been that rather than health and wellbeing being integrated – but perhaps not so obvious – in the practice of my coaching, while always hugely important, has moved to become front and centre.
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